Not all of us are lucky enough to have family members and friends who support our health and fitness goals — especially if we’ve recently decided to embrace a healthier lifestyle.
Almost all of my clients tell me they have to battle temptations offered to them at work, at home, and even by their spouses. When someone keeps tempting us (or questioning the changes we’ve made), we get mad. We wonder, WHY oh WHY can’t they get with the program? Why do they have to offer us drinks, cookies, and chips? If it’s a spouse or loved one, we sometimes feel guilty for not taking them up on the offer. And sometimes we think: Why can’t they just smarten up and do what we’re doing?
Well, here’s the deal. They don’t have to do what you’re doing. They don’t even have to support it. Would it be nice if they jumped in with you, or cheered you along the way? Yes. It would. But remember: you’re the one who changed. And that’s totally cool, and if it matters, I support you 100 percent.
We all have our own paths in life. You made a decision to change course slightly (or maybe a lot). It takes the people around us a while to adjust to these course corrections. It might take weeks, months or even years. Or maybe they never adjust. And that’s OK.
None of the following matters, really, but maybe the people around you are skeptical of your changes and are waiting to see if they “stick” this time. Or maybe they are defensive because they don’t feel good about own their decisions. Or maybe they are afraid if you change too much, they’ll lose you. But, again, their reasons shouldn’t impact whether you stay on your healthy lifestyle path.
Decide to be an inspiration to them. Not better than them because you’re suddenly “healthier” and “smarter” with your choices (because, face it, some of us can get a little pious about our healthier lifestyles) — but by living a vital, glowing, agile, full life, maybe you’ll help nudge them toward finding their own path, right alongside yours.